Your December Sanity Booster (Zine Inside!)
BHB: Self Care in the Chaos
Can you believe that it’s December??? It seems like I was just setting 2025 goals last week. Wowzers! I hope you’ve had a good holiday season so far. If you’re struggling to find peace in the midst of chaos, I’ve got just the thing for you- our final Holiday zine is here! Better Homes & Boundaries: Self Care in the Chaos.
Your cozy, soulful, messy-human guide to getting through the holidays without losing your mind.
The holidays have a way of stirring everything up — the joy, the grief, the expectations, the overwhelm, the cookies you ate for breakfast.
And if you’ve ever looked at a perfectly styled holiday photo and thought,
“Sure… but where are all the actual humans?”
then this zine is for you.
What’s Inside
A mix of heartfelt storytelling, grounding prompts, and simple tools pulled from my own life and recovery journey — including my years navigating codependency, creativity, boundaries, joy, and now cancer recovery.
Inside you’ll find:
✨ The Holiday Shift Check-In
Return to what actually matters this season — not what other people expect from you.
✨ DIY Permission Slip
Instead of me telling you what to do, YOU get to choose what you need permission for.
✨ Acceptance Practices
A gentle set of prompts to help you release the “shoulds” and breathe into what is.
✨ Tools for the Season
My real-life go-to’s that have saved my sanity more than once:
Bathroom Sanctuary moments
Pre-rehearsed exit scripts
Let-it-go jingles
Freedom strategies (yes, I’m talking about you, rental car)
✨ Holiday Card Ritual
A creative moment that takes you back to childhood: pens, scraps, crayons, and zero pressure. Includes:
A card to yourself (the one you wish someone would send)
A card you’ll never send (but absolutely need to write)
✨ A Free Pass to F-up
Because perfection is a myth and the holidays are messy.
And so are we.
Bless it.
Who This Zine Is For
This zine is designed for:
the emotionally exhausted
the recovering perfectionist
the human navigating complicated family
the one who’s grieving, growing, or overwhelmed
the person who wants a softer, saner holiday
the one who needs permission to do things differently this year
If the holidays bring up big feelings, old patterns, or the urge to hide in your car with a gas-station hot chocolate — welcome. You are in the right place.
Why I Made This
Because real life is messy.
Because we can’t control people (trust me, I tried for decades).
Because sometimes the holidays hurt.
Because sometimes they’re beautiful.
Because both can be true at the same time.
I created this zine as a small, meaningful way to help you feel supported, grounded, and a little more human this season — using the same practices that supported me through some of the hardest years of my life.
Ways to Use Your Zine
Print it + mark it up
Tape your permission slip to your mirror
Use a page as your phone wallpaper
Read one prompt a day
Or devour it in one sitting
Share it with a friend who needs some light
Keep it in your purse for self-love emergencies
This is your space.
Use it up.
Grab Your Copy
Studio Members: scroll on down and download yours now!
Not a Studio Member? Buy yours here (or become a Studio Member and scroll on down!)
A very special treat: I have three copies left of the printed 3-volume version of Better Homes & Boundaries: All Together Now. $25 signed, sealed and delivered. Fist come. First Served. Buy here.
Not interested in the zine but want to support my work? Drop a tip in the tip jar:)
Love ya lots!
Jenni
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