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Your December Sanity Booster (Zine Inside!)

BHB: Self Care in the Chaos

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Jenni Tooley
Dec 04, 2025
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Can you believe that it’s December??? It seems like I was just setting 2025 goals last week. Wowzers! I hope you’ve had a good holiday season so far. If you’re struggling to find peace in the midst of chaos, I’ve got just the thing for you- our final Holiday zine is here! Better Homes & Boundaries: Self Care in the Chaos.

Your cozy, soulful, messy-human guide to getting through the holidays without losing your mind.

The holidays have a way of stirring everything up — the joy, the grief, the expectations, the overwhelm, the cookies you ate for breakfast.
And if you’ve ever looked at a perfectly styled holiday photo and thought,
“Sure… but where are all the actual humans?”
then this zine is for you.


What’s Inside

A mix of heartfelt storytelling, grounding prompts, and simple tools pulled from my own life and recovery journey — including my years navigating codependency, creativity, boundaries, joy, and now cancer recovery.

Inside you’ll find:

✨ The Holiday Shift Check-In

Return to what actually matters this season — not what other people expect from you.

✨ DIY Permission Slip

Instead of me telling you what to do, YOU get to choose what you need permission for.

✨ Acceptance Practices

A gentle set of prompts to help you release the “shoulds” and breathe into what is.

✨ Tools for the Season

My real-life go-to’s that have saved my sanity more than once:

  • Bathroom Sanctuary moments

  • Pre-rehearsed exit scripts

  • Let-it-go jingles

  • Freedom strategies (yes, I’m talking about you, rental car)

✨ Holiday Card Ritual

A creative moment that takes you back to childhood: pens, scraps, crayons, and zero pressure. Includes:

  • A card to yourself (the one you wish someone would send)

  • A card you’ll never send (but absolutely need to write)

✨ A Free Pass to F-up

Because perfection is a myth and the holidays are messy.
And so are we.
Bless it.


Who This Zine Is For

This zine is designed for:

  • the emotionally exhausted

  • the recovering perfectionist

  • the human navigating complicated family

  • the one who’s grieving, growing, or overwhelmed

  • the person who wants a softer, saner holiday

  • the one who needs permission to do things differently this year

If the holidays bring up big feelings, old patterns, or the urge to hide in your car with a gas-station hot chocolate — welcome. You are in the right place.


Why I Made This

Because real life is messy.
Because we can’t control people (trust me, I tried for decades).
Because sometimes the holidays hurt.
Because sometimes they’re beautiful.
Because both can be true at the same time.

I created this zine as a small, meaningful way to help you feel supported, grounded, and a little more human this season — using the same practices that supported me through some of the hardest years of my life.


Ways to Use Your Zine

  • Print it + mark it up

  • Tape your permission slip to your mirror

  • Use a page as your phone wallpaper

  • Read one prompt a day

  • Or devour it in one sitting

  • Share it with a friend who needs some light

  • Keep it in your purse for self-love emergencies

This is your space.
Use it up.


Grab Your Copy

  • Studio Members: scroll on down and download yours now!

  • Not a Studio Member? Buy yours here (or become a Studio Member and scroll on down!)

  • A very special treat: I have three copies left of the printed 3-volume version of Better Homes & Boundaries: All Together Now. $25 signed, sealed and delivered. Fist come. First Served. Buy here.

Not interested in the zine but want to support my work? Drop a tip in the tip jar:)

Love ya lots!
Jenni

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